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Canceling last-minute as a means of “self care.”

RIP social skills. Beginning of time-2020.

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Emily Sundberg
May 23, 2025
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Good morning everyone. Last night I went to friend-of-the-letter and Bloomberg star

Joseph Weisenthal
’s show in the East Village. The people want Light Sweet Crude merch.

On the train to the show, I was reading a story in New York Magazine about post-pandemic “dulled social skills.” It’s a subject I talk to my friends about a lot because it’s one of the main sources of my anxiety. As a result of DMs, emails, texting, group texting, and this newsletter, I have experienced a blurring of social boundaries on an almost-daily basis. I’m becoming numb to feeling baffled. And I know I’m not alone.

Last night, I asked my Instagram followers what social etiquette faux pas they encounter the most regularly. Below are the responses in addition to some of the responses from a Feed Me chat about this same topic earlier this year, but I want to hear yours in the comments.

If you’re looking for a book about this topic, I think I took Manners by Kate Spade out from the library 100 times in middle school. Maybe if this goes well, we print an updated Feed Me version.

Hope you all have a nice three-day weekend. Go Knicks.



Friends.

  • Not knowing when or how to ask for a favor. There is a time and a place, there is a level of closeness that needs to exist or a favor/thank you in return that needs to happen that people are just not grasping for some reason .

  • Infantilizing. I have friends who sound like they’re taking to babies. with servers, elderly, etc.

  • Bailing on plans, showing up late, and flaking.

  • In car cities, people who don’t have a car asking for a ride but not offering a return gesture.

  • Decisiveness is so hard to come by. Pick a fucking restaurant and stick with it. Pick a fucking conversation and stick with it! You will have more interesting things to say if you’re not looking around for something better

  • Making an email intro without checking first, and with zero context.

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